Episode 7: The First Year of Parenting: What We Know Now That We Didn’t Know Before

Because our daughter Penelope recently turned one, and because our podcast is about life and love in addition to business, we thought we’d share some of the lessons we’ve learned during our first year of parenting. Now, in no way are we parenting experts – we’re just two human beings trying to figure out how to keep a small person alive. And stay married. And keep running a business. Oh, and keep our sanity, too.

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In this Episode

So, some things we’ll cover in this episode are:

  • The many ways we’ve been surprised by the human body, from pregnancy to now
  • Our feelings about – and experiences with – the issue of control
  • Parenting as a partnership and what that looks like for us
  • Our views on allowing and on letting go of “the perfect plan”
  • The different ways we try to maintain balance within the chaos for the sake of our sanity
  • Our thoughts on parenting books and blogs – and the most helpful advice we received about the one thing to read
  • Tapping into the still, small voice within that always knows what to do at any given moment
  • Flexibility and realizing that the right thing today might not be the right thing tomorrow
  • Kate’s when-all-else-fails advice for making a cranky baby happy
  • Babies’ capacity to tune in and understand what’s going on around them
  • The lesson in lovability that babies teach us
  • The physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual hard work of parenting and our pre-baby naïveté about that

 

Selected Links from the Episode

On Control and the Inherent Brittleness of Being Rigid

Show Notes

  • The human body is incredible (and the shifts in thinking that Kate made about hers) [1:30]
  • Sometimes when you’re a new parent, you just have to go with the flow and give up control [6:39]
  • It was hard for Kate to come to grips with the fact that a perfect birth can’t be planned [9:20]
  • When you relax and allow yourself to just be with your child, it’s an amazing experience [10:45]
  • Why you need to focus on what excites you, now [14:50]
  • Read your baby, not a book! [20:30]
  • The “right thing” today might not be the right thing tomorrow [23:00]
  • Babies love music; when all else fails, dance! [23:45]
  • We tend to undervalue how smart babies really are [26:50]
  • Everything about us is totally perfect and lovable, both for babies and adults [28:45]
  • Parenting is hard work: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually [30:39]

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8 comments

  • Stacy

    Just listened to this episode of the Kate and Mike show and wanted to let you know that as a first-time Mom of a 6 month old baby boy so much of what you both said resonated. You guys are great. I always appreciate how open and honest you both are. Thanks for and sharing what you’ve learned. I feel like I just had a chat over coffee with friends.

  • Stacy

    Just listened to this episode of the Kate and Mike show and wanted to let you know that as a first-time Mom of a 6 month old baby boy, so much of what you both said resonated. You guys are great. I always appreciate how open and honest you both are. Thanks for sharing what you’ve learned thus far. I feel like I just had a chat over coffee with friends.

  • Teri

    Okay. I am an “old lady” who just really loves the two of you! The wisdom through vulnerability that you two gift to others through this podcast is so needed in today’s “expert”, “social media fix for everything” world. Learning and knowing can be lonely. I have 5 boys, the youngest of which is now 15. They are all extraordinary, unique individuals. I honor you. Because of social media and your honesty and servant leadership, people in this stage of life don’t have to find these truths alone. ?

    • Kate Northrup

      Thank you for this Teri! We’re simply here reporting in from life. I’m so glad that the two of us processing life together on our podcast is helpful for others because it sure is helpful for us!

  • Sounds SO much like me! Totally relate to the frantic reading of sleep books and blogs and driving everyone crazy changing our approach. Just this week I was feeling guilty for nursing him to sleep and letting him sleep at a slight incline instead of flat on his back. Love what you said about listening to him and understanding that it’ll constantly change. I get so stuck on “this worked” that I often blaze ahead with that in mind when in reality he’s ready to change into something else. Thanks so much for sharing. It’s nice to know I’m not alone!

  • ViriDiana

    Just finished the latest episode and have been following you guys for the last two-three months and I just love listening! Feels like I know you both! I’m really hoping this podcast becomes a daily one ;)

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