You’re Doing It Right.


In case you were wondering, you’re doing it right.

You’re in the perfect place at the perfect time doing the perfect thing.

You’re exactly where you should be, even if it doesn’t look the way you thought it would. {Tweet It} youre-exactly-where-you-should-be-quote

Your timing is perfect and elegant and everything is unfolding as it should, even if it didn’t turn out the way you thought it would.

There is no grand master plan for your life that you can screw up by making the wrong decision or missing an opportunity.

What is for you cannot pass by you. May that be salve to your ever anxious soul.

You may feel invisible right now. Trust that your invisibility is exactly the incubation you need to burst forth in a flurry of light when the time is right.

You may feel like you missed the boat. Take heart. If you missed it, it wasn’t your boat.

You may feel like you’re too late or too early. Not possible. You’re only ever on time as far as your destiny goes.

Yeah, there are a few things you wished you’d done differently. But if you had, you wouldn’t have right now, your current reality. And even if right now isn’t what you wanted, it’s leading you somewhere that you do want. You can trust that.

There isn’t a wrong choice. There’s just the choice you make.

There are an infinite number of ways your life could go. The one you choose is the right one. {Tweet It} there-are-an-infinite-number-of-ways-quote

You can’t screw it up. You can’t ruin your life. You can only live it.

So, rest easy and know: you’re doing it right.



Do you ever feel you aren’t on the right path? Do you lose sleep over getting it “right”? Whether you’ve experienced a shift in this thinking or not, I’d love to hear from you in the comments!


  • This is right on time, thank you. As I sit here writing:

    “Baby girl (I say that to myself sometimes, it’s soothing), it’s counter-productive to sit here trying to will something to come up, to find something to respond to, or to figure out what my intentions are right now. Please don’t force it, you’ll only wear yourself out and be frustrated, that’s not what you want.”

    Enjoy your day, I will!

  • Good morning Kate!
    I thank you for reassuring this sense to me this morning. It meant more than I could write in words and it helped me with dealing with so many doubts that came to my mind. To know that I am in a journey where it’s given to me is relieving because it diminishes a bit of my tendency to beat up myself which most times makes me feel awful.
    So, thank you!

  • Grace

    This was a comforting blog, encouraging words we all need to hear at times!!

  • Amanda Rogers

    Seriously? What a wonderful message today, makes me tear up. I’ve always had this overwhelming feeling that I “should” know what my purpose in life is or “if these things line up, then maybe blah will work”. I’ve never felt like I was on my correct path. Maybe I’ve had the power all along, I just need to click my heels together.

  • Maryellen

    Thanks for this, Kate. It’s a perfect relief to the stress of looking at the past and feeling false guilt, and looking at the future and worrying. Thanks for helping us be here now. Presence and focus hold hands well together.

  • Thank you, thank you, thank you for this! I absolutely need to hear this today. It’s so hard to tease out what we want from all the things we feel we ought to be doing. Thank you for this and for all you do!

  • I feel like I really did screw everything up sometimes (ok most of the time) but then I remember that I was making decisions based on who I was then, not who I am now. The hard part is forgiving that past version of myself for putting present me in this situation, and carrying the burden of the consequences. But nothing lasts forever, and eventually I’ll pay my debts, and find success in life. It’s the close friends and improved family relationships I have now that helps me have a sense of gratitude for my past mistakes.

    • Kate Northrup

      Yes! Those relationships are the gold. The success and money and whatever other trappings we seek are mere accessories. If we can preserve (or mend) those key relationships – that’s what it’s all about.

  • Debbie

    Such perfect timing to read your blog today. I’ve been unemployed for almost 4 months now. Somedays this time in my life is a test of my self-confidence and ability to keep smiling. Your blog reminds me that everything WILL be okay. Thanks Kate!

  • Lisa

    “Do I ever feel like I’m not on the right path? Do I lose sleep over getting it ‘right’?”

    Oh my gosh, um….. YES! Throughout my entire life this “not on the right path/not getting it right/you missed the boat/you should have….” voice has tormented me to one degree or another. In college, when I compared myself to everyone else’s “life plan” it consumed me. At other times, it’s barely a whisper, or I don’t hear it at all. This voice gets stronger and louder when I am uncomfortable; when I’m in transition; when I’m in emotional pain because something isn’t going well and I am experiencing loss or unwanted change. I tend to blame myself for this turmoil and pain and tell myself if I had done something different I wouldn’t be in this position now. I also look at unrequited dreams and think I’ve missed that boat for sure. It’s too late now to…(fill in the blank). So – THANK YOU for these reminders. My higher self believes it. My inner critical voice needs more persuading. ;)

    • Kate Northrup

      You’re so welcome Lisa. It’s really insightful to notice that the voice that thinks you missed the boat is loudest in times of transition or pain. Now you know so the next time it comes up you can ask yourself what might that voice be trying to distract you from that you don’t want to feel or deal with. Your higher self is so on it!

  • Franzi

    Hi Kate
    Thank you for posting this….. This was exactly what I needed to read today. Sometimes it’s good to remember that I’m exactly where I need to be.
    So thank you very much. :)

  • Sarah-Jane

    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

    Your post couldn’t have come at a more suitable time. Beating myself up over where I’m at, and wishing I was somewhere else… Everything is right where it should be. Relax, trust in the universe, and be happy.
    Thank you Kate!

  • Fantabulous!! I adore your work and I’m so honoured and grateful that I came across your website and book thanks to your amazing friend Marie!! Thank you so much for sharing your great wisdom and comforting words with the world. It’s rippling effect is immeasurable. I’m still having sleepless nights though but no longer from stress or worry but from exhilaration and excitement! Hehehe

  • Erin

    “What is for you cannot pass by you “-
    I love this part sooooo much. Truly wonderful blog post!
    (I wish every person read and then reread this post regularly….its something we all need to remind ourselves)

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