What’s the area of your life that you feel you need the most help in?

Your money? Your health? Parenting? Your relationship? Something else?

I’ve been having some health things go on over the last year and I’ve consulted with seven different practitioners about it.

I’ve also been ruminating about the kind of community I want my kids to be part of, specifically around community agreements when it comes to smartphones, social media, and media access and consumption in general.

I didn’t see it at the time, but recently I realized how both of these areas of my life (my health and my parenting community), I’ve been subtly doing the very same sneaky thing that’s been straight up preventing me from getting what I want.

No matter what area of your life is the most inflamed and needing your attention, I bet I’m not the only one who sometimes defaults to this sneaky, unsupportive pattern, too.

So what’s the subtle, sneaky pattern that I recently saw was preventing me from having the very thing I desire when it comes to my health and my kids?

I’ve been trying to find someone else who has ALL the solutions I seek.

I thought for sure I could find one person who could help me with all things hormones, immune optimization, and metabolic health. I had this kind of delusion that I could find a one-stop shop where one practitioner would just tell me what to do to fix all of my health concerns.

I also had this idea that I could find the dream school for us where everyone’s already on the same page about kids, phones, and social media and that also checks every single one of my other boxes when it comes to what I want for my kids’ education.

(If the second topic is close to your heart, too, listen to my solo episode on kids, screens, and mental health here.)

All of a sudden it occurred to me that someone else wasn’t gonna be the end-all-be-all person to tell me what to do for every area of optimizing my physical health. Duh!

Then I realized that I was just gonna need to be the person in our current school community who puts out the call to build the kind of community agreements I want. (This is a real edge for me because there’s something about being the mom leading with this in the group chat that makes me squirm, but that’s another topic for another day.)

I really wanted there to be someone else who could just handle my body for me and also handle creating a community that takes really good care of my kids’ mental health and innocence for me.

But, surprise surprise…it’s me!

So, I signed up for a health course that’s for practitioners and die-hard regular folks like me who wanna go deep on all of the areas I’m ready to optimize in my body and I’m going to partner with a practitioner to optimize my own health.

And, once the group chat gets formed for my kids’ new class, I’ll be putting out the call to find the other families who are also lit up by my community agreements about phones and social media.

I’m pretty pumped about the health one. The kids’ community agreements one is more of a stretch. But…onward we go!

Is it smart to learn from experts? Yes.

But should we wait to have what we want until we find someone else who’s already done the work for us so we can unconsciously hand them our power and wait for them to fix it for us?

Nope.

Whether you’re wanting to take things to the next level with your money, your health, your parenting, your relationship, or anything else, I hope my story helps you realize that you’re the one you’ve been waiting for.

You’re smart enough. You’re powerful enough. The information you need to fill in your knowledge gaps is available to you right now.

You get to have what you want, as long as you stop waiting for someone else to figure it out for you. And so do I 😘.

Xo,
Kate