24 Things I Know to be True

24 Things I Know to be True

Baby Ruby is now 3.5 months old. I have 8 more weeks of my official maternity leave. (However, I give myself total permission to ease back into my new version of work because I don’t believe you can come back after birth the same, and therefore the old ways of doing things will likely not work, either.)

Last night Mike showed me a picture of the two of us taken when we’d first fallen in love.

24 Things I Know to be True

“We look like children!” I said.

I hadn’t realized how 7 years had made its mark on my face until I saw the evidence in a photo. We’ve been together 7 years now, married for 4, and have 2 beautiful girls. Our life together was just a dream when that photo was taken.

A friend who I haven’t seen since our wedding messaged me the other day and said that motherhood looked good on me. I responded with a thank-you and threw in that it had come with a lot more wrinkles, 15 extra pounds, and a lot more grey hair, but a way bigger heart.

She responded, “I’d take those. That’s living.”

On our anniversary a couple of weeks ago, Mike and I looked at each other and agreed that we both still feel like kids. But with kids of our own and a mortgage and payroll. We do very adult things every day while being very young at heart.

May we all live life with the innocence and hope of a twenty-something but with the wisdom that only comes from accumulating wrinkles and grey hair. 

24 Things I Know to be True

And with that, I’m sharing a note I wrote to myself sometime in 2011, the year Mike and I fell in love and took the picture above in which we look like children.

I found it and got my editing pencil ready, prepared to need to make lots of changes to the “wisdom” of my 27-year-old self. But I only changed two sentences slightly and added three more. (They’re asterisked in case you’re curious which ones.)

Here’s to knowing what you know and living accordingly, no matter how old or young you are.

Here’s what I know:

  • Doing something for the money never ends up being worth it.
  • If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.
  • You are valuable because you exist. Period. (Or, full stop if you’re British.)
  • You are enough. You always have been. You always will be.
  • Your place of greatest ease and joy will also be your place of greatest service.
  • It’s okay to sleep for ten hours or more a night every night or as often as you want to/can. Sleep can be a spiritual practice. (It’s mine!)*
  • No accomplishment or moment of recognition will ever replace feeling loved, by yourself or anyone else.
  • It’s not going to turn out the way you thought. It will be better.
  • You know. You always know.
  • A system that doesn’t work for everyone doesn’t work for anyone, in the end.*
  • Organizing your life around what feels good is the single wisest choice you can make.
  • There is always going to be a small part of you that wants to please your mother, even if you’re not conscious of it, and that’s okay.
  • Saying yes to someone simply because you don’t want to disappoint them is not only unfair to you, it’s unfair to them.
  • Sleep, water, movement, greens, and a good cry make nearly everything better (at least a little bit).*
  • Anything worth taking seriously is worth making fun of.
  • Paying attention to your money is a profound act of self-love.
  • It turns out that life is happening right now. Don’t postpone your joy.
  • Loving yourself more is the best place to start to solve any problem.
  • Staying silent about the things you see that are wrong about the world is complicity.*
  • You can’t judge and have an open heart at the same time.
  • Nothing is random. Everything happens for a reason.
  • Your body is wise beyond what you could possibly imagine. Listen to her. She will lead you home every time.
  • Home is not a place.
  • What you do and who you are matters.*

OVER TO YOU:

What do you know for sure? Which one of the things I know resonates with you the most? Tell me in the comments!

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17 comments

  • Rachel

    Thank you so much! Just what I needed this morning.

  • What I know for sure is that I’m do proud to be your mother. And get to read things like this first thing in the morning.

  • Lisa Stiles

    I do not comment on the “things that are wrong in the world” on social media. I cannot afford to alienate half of my potential clients. Once I am living above the poverty line I feel like I can afford to have a strong opinion and tell everyone! but until I get to that place I will continue to protest and sign petitions and vote and stand up for people who are being bullied in my everyday life. I do not feel I am being complicit. Just fiscally prudent at the moment. I love this blog otherwise. I’ve read your books and hope to participate in one of your programs someday. (I was a runner-up in one of your contests once…I one the Fung-shei course…but I don’t currently have a home…so I can’t use it yet.( I am staying with friends and family and house-sitting for the last 5 years)

  • Angie

    An amazing resonating list and one I still find holds true even though I am a lot older and my children grown. My daughter will be 27 this year same as you in the photo. Motherhood is a bumpy ride but the best one there is. I was recently asked what I thought my greatest achievement is and without doubt raising two children to be independent beings is it.

  • DG Spencer

    Timing on putting this out couldn’t have been better!
    Thanks for all that you do!
    DG

  • You have no idea how important this list was for me today. “You know. You Always Know.” feels like a variation of Trust your Gut (which is one of my favorites). And, sweet Jesus, thank you for posting “If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.” That phrase alone may have saved me from a few sleepless nights in the week ahead (as I have started grappling with a big question). Thank you. Thank you.

  • Julie Bruns

    All of this spoke to me, but especially these:
    Your place of greatest ease and joy will also be your place of greatest service. (I wish I knew this when I was 20, but I figured it out after many years of reading, learning, and listening and have been living it for over a decade.)
    Staying silent about the things you see that are wrong about the world is complicity.* (So true, and I always work hard to be brave enough to speak up, and teach my kids the same thing.)
    A system that doesn’t work for everyone doesn’t work for anyone, in the end.* (This is brilliant; I wish I said it!)
    Saying yes to someone simply because you don’t want to disappoint them is not only unfair to you, it’s unfair to them. (Women need to read and re-read this; men are so much better at NOT doing this and teaching us how to do it well; my advice: marry a good man who can teach you how to do this.)

  • Brilliant and beautiful and wise.
    Thank you for sharing your experience and inspiration. I can relate totally as a mom to two boys.
    I love your new additions and the ones that were already there.
    These three resonated deeply in this moment for me:

    Your place of greatest ease and joy will also be your place of greatest service.

    Staying silent about the things you see that are wrong about the world is complicity.

    A system that doesn’t work for everyone doesn’t work for anyone, in the end.

    Thank you for your leadership and courage: Heart.
    love, Julie
    a Montreal Origin Member and fan :)

  • VIcki

    Hard to choose one, so I chose three. :-) First was “Paying attention to your money is a profound act of self-love.” Unless you were raised in an environment that paid attention to money (in a positive and growth sense) you don’t pay attention, and it’s often many wasted years later when you do start to pay attention.

    Second is, “You are valuable because you exist. Period.” Had to learn that one, but it’s SO true!

    And finally, there is “Nothing is random. Everything happens for a reason.” A-B-S-O-L-U-T-E-L-Y! No accidents. Ever. Thanks for a great list!

  • Mollie

    I love this list! Such a nice list to start my day. The one I love the most is, “your body is wise beyond what you could possibly imagine….” I am learning (at a couple months shy of 50) that I know so much more about me and what works for my body than any doctor or expert ever could. This saying also reinforces the knowledge that everything you need, you have within.

    Thank you!

  • Rebecca

    These statements resonate with me the most:

    Your place of greatest ease and joy will also be your place of greatest service.
    You know. You always know.
    A system that doesn’t work for everyone doesn’t work for anyone, in the end.*
    Organizing your life around what feels good is the single wisest choice you can make.

  • Loving yourself more is the best place to start to solve any problem.
    Seriously – it all begins at that solid and unwavering place of self love – inside of us all.
    Thank you for yet another blog that resonates deeply.

  • Lill

    Thanks Kate – loved what you knew/know!

    What I know is that the only thing that matters right now is right now.

    Kind regards, Lill

  • Tracy Taylor

    It’s about trusting yourself. Everything comes down to that. Just trust yourself and you’ll be amazed at what can happen.

  • You are such a divine Spirit Kate! I loved all 24. You are helping all of us grow our wings 👏🏼💗🤗💫

  • Doing something for the money never ends up being worth it.

    Your place of greatest ease and joy will also be your place of greatest service.

    That’s it! Just there. Thank you.

  • I love this, and I love everything you are doing. I love the Catherine Ponder intention:

    Everything is unfolding in Divine Order, in Divine TIming, for the highest good of all. (And I always add – even if I cannot see it right now. Lol.)

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