The Biggest Mistake People Make in Tough Conversations: Glimpse TV with Laurie Gerber

I first learned of the Handel Group executive and life coaching company through taking this wacky, amazing, and really fun workout class called IntenSati. (The class involves intense aerobic activity, spoken affirmations, martial arts, dance, and good, old-fashioned calisthenics. Keep your eyes pealed for a future Glimpse TV episode with Patricia Moreno, founder of IntenSati.) To be totally honest, before I started working with the Handel Group, whenever I met anyone who told me they were a life coach I sort of smirked and discounted it. I never took life coaching seriously and I had a totally unenlightened opinion about the whole profession. I was given a highly discounted trial session with a Handel coach after a workshop on manifesting. I went into the session having half-assed my homework and not really expecting much. Needless to say, given that I’m now featuring the Handel Group on Glimpse TV, I was completely knocked off my feet in the best way possible. I began working with Rebecca Bent, the current CEO of the Handel Group, and during our first session she called me out as a “faker.” I was shocked. I was stunned. I was incredibly annoyed. And somewhere deep inside me I knew she was right. The unraveling around some of my avoidance and faking tendencies began in October 2009 and I continue to coach with the Handel Group now. Their methodology is not for the faint of heart. They are all about personal integrity and telling the truth. I had to fess up to the fact that I’ve never been real keen on the truth and, in fact, I’ve spent most of my twenty-seven years doing back flips and emotional contortions to avoid it. Since working with Rebecca, and now my new coach Molly, my life has transformed in many ways, including much deeper and more authentic relationships with my mom, dad, and sisters, a creative outlet in this blog and Glimpse TV, more financial abundance than I’ve ever had, and a stronger sense of self-worth that comes from knowing that I’m telling the truth. The journey continues and I’m a very pleased customer.

Laurie Gerber, president of the Handel Group, joined me on the roof last week to share the number one mistake people make when having tough conversations (and how to avoid it), why the truth is so sexy, her life’s mission to make the world a better place, and so much more. Enjoy the episode!

The Biggest Mistake People Make In Tough Conversations: Glimpse TV with Laurie Gerber of the Handel Group from Kate Moller on Vimeo.

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Have you told the truth lately? How did it go?

What’s the most challenging part about telling the truth for you?

What makes telling the truth easier for you?

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8 comments

Kat

October 13, 2010 AT 3:05PM

telling the truth gets easier when my integrity and point of view matter more to me than how “nice” I will appear to the other person. I would really love to be able to have project managers LISTEN when I do this, because they would save themselves, and therefore me, a lot of trouble in the long run. But a lot of times, telling the truth to someone who is set in their ways doesn’t help, they just want someone to agree with them and then to hold responsible when it does not go well when their way is “discovered” to be flawed during a much later phase of a project… at a much higher price.

The most challenging part of telling the truth is knowing I am correct and right, and speaking in the overall long-term best interest of all involved (especially myself) and then not being heard or really listened to… and feeling like I am a passenger in an accident that will happen that I can see coming that I cannot control, on a project I cannot get out of… and then watching it all go to smash and having to help the people pick up the pieces.

I still have not figured out a way to say “I told you so” when this happens… any suggestions?

suzanne

October 13, 2010 AT 7:02PM

@Kat,

How about… I saw this coming, I spoke up when I saw it coming and hoped it could have turned out differently. I wish you had listened to me then!

Better yet, Kate, say something (the truth) sooner rather than later, when you first FEEL THE FEELING like its all going down hill, like you can’t get out of it, but the truth is you CAN!

Kat

October 14, 2010 AT 8:41AM

@suzanne, Thanks Suzanne, I generally DO speak up when I feel the issue to begin with, and have continued to lobby for change. But I like the “I wish you had listened to me, this might have turned out differently” bit…

Kate

October 15, 2010 AT 8:20PM

@Kat, Thanks for joining the conversation @Kat and @suzanne. I totally agree that telling the truth gets easier when we stop worrying about how it’s going to look.

Barbara T

October 13, 2010 AT 4:47PM

Great interview Kate, LOVE the handel group and Laurie – xo

Kate

October 15, 2010 AT 8:21PM

@Barbara T, Thanks Barbara – glad you enjoyed it!

Hannah Marcotti

October 14, 2010 AT 10:18PM

Kate, pink is your color!

Lovely interview,I love talking about the truth.

I have been telling a lot of truth lately and one place that I’ve worked on is explaining when I am upset to my husband. He appreciates when I can articulate it to him, but sometimes it takes me a bit to get there.

What makes it easier? Practice, practice, practice…and gratitude for all that is.

Kate

October 15, 2010 AT 8:21PM

@Hannah Marcotti, So true! Practice, practice, practice. And gratitude. Great reminders Hannah. Thanks for joining the conversation!