The Art of Exposing Oneself

Last week I launched my Mentoring Program. I’ve been sitting on this idea for six months. For whatever reason (fear, time, other projects, lack of clarity, karma) I just couldn’t get myself to launch it. Until last week.

I’ve been playing with you and creating in this online space for almost two years. Yet, I realized I had never directly invited this amazing community to work with me in any tangible way. So, I decided it was about time to finally sell something of mine here. People had been asking. It was time to deliver.

But throughout the entire process (and ongoing, as it’s not over yet) I felt like I was exposing myself. In a good way, of course, not like a creepy guy on the corner flashing people in a trench coat. Exposing myself in that way that makes you feel exhilarated and afraid one second to the next. It turns out that it’s scary to put yourself out there and say, “Hey! Here’s some truth and wisdom that I have to offer. Here’s an opportunity to hang with me more. Here’s a way we can work together. Here’s what I’ll give you. Here’s what it will take on your end.” The whole process churned my insides, showed me some ways I could love and trust more, and also thrilled me.

It took some notes on stickies throughout the launch because I had a feeling I’d want to share what I learned with you. So here’s some food for thought the next time you expose yourself whether in the form of published words, an online launch, a performance, a heart-felt truth-filled heart-to-heart, or in your journal by yourself in the wee hours of the night.

It doesn’t matter how, when, or where you expose yourself, or to whom. But it does matter that you do it from time to time or more often. Because the world desires what you’ve got. It requires all of you and that requires exposure.

How have you exposed yourself lately? How did it feel? What did you put out there in the world? Any more tips on the art of exposure? Leave a comment!
  • Mike says:

    Thank you for the great words. Plus I would agree with you, I am pretty awesome! :)

  • Kat says:

    Hi Kate!

    This couldn’t have come at a better time. About a month ago I created my first blog. Had been sitting on that idea for some time, but finally decided to give it a go. It’s still a work in progress. Don’t know exactly where I want to go with it just yet but somehow it doesn’t really seem to matter. The baby is out of it’s womb and ready to roll!


  • Love it, Kate! As always, you give us such great wisdom. I have been in the process of launching several projects in my own business back-to-back-to-back and have found all the tips you offer above to be extremely helpful. Deadlines, letting-go-when-it’s-done, asking for help… are all musts, and I think every person in his/her own business would agree that “it” happens when you decide to make “it” happen. Look forward to reading your next post, and hope your mentoring program is off to a fantastic start! Have a great week!

  • lisa P says:

    “It turns out the world has more space for you to be imperfect than you give them credit for. Take the space set aside for your humanness..” Your words are always inspiring and thought provoking! I’m in the process of exposing myself.. Now I have the courage to harness my imperfect humanness Kate!

  • Hilda Jorge says:

    Hi Kate, exposing oneself is one of the most daring things we can do.Never certain of the outcome–it still requires an awful lot of courage and yet–the beauty of it is the freedom that your soul feels once unshackled. Reminds me of the Bette Davis movie–“Now, Voyager.” Suitable words for the journey!

  • Nancy Conte says:

    Thanks Kate! You wrote just for me! I set my intension, then wrote but saved the email I had been writing, I now find the courage to go ahead and send it! Life is short, and what is meant to be is simply meant to be. Thanks for being in my head , my heart, and in my life! Nancy


    Beautifully written, wonderfully inspirational! Thank you for sharing such heartfelt wisdom :)

  • Brooke Emery says:

    Hey Kate –
    So beautifully said. I am exposing myself right now. Id much rather write this to you in a personal email, but I love a good stretch out my comfort zone invite. Writing my first newsletter after 4 years of hiatus was very exposing especially since a lot of my beliefs have shifted. Then the tech glitches. I think the important key is what you mentioned have fun as well as have a sense of humor. As Blues Traveler beautifully sang “It won’t mean a thing in 100 years”.

  • Nola Peacock says:

    Reading this today was perfect! I just launched my website yesterday. I love that you share your fears and insecurities. It makes it alright for the rest of us to feel this way. I loved that you didn’t wait until you were ready or until it was perfect! Thank you for exposing yourself and giving others the courage to do the same.

  • Magdalena says:

    Thank you, this came in perfect time :)

  • jo johnston says:

    I have been following your freedom tour and Glimpse TV for a while as I launched my new blog and website.Your enthusiasm and passion is palpable. I simply had to respond to this article because it resonated so much with my own experiences. You are one awesome gal! Best wishes with everything Jo


    Dearest Kate,

    This post was written for me- so I must thank you! I love your writing and presentation and all the choices you made about this post are right on. Perfection.
    I am about to premiere an event tomorrow evening that I have marinated and lived with and played with in the ways that you illuminate here. And, there is no ‘work’- the ideas, inspirations, connections all flow with a velocity and momentum I have never experienced in ‘work’. And it is growing- the project, my work, and my confidence in using my authentic voice.
    So thank you for this post. I will share it around. I put a link here to a release that came out about my project today.
    I am certainly coming ‘OUT’.
    With love and gratitude for your work in the world and in my life,
    Suzi Banks Baum

  • Edy says:

    So good, you put your finger on what I’ve been feeling, terrified to expose and become vulnerable. But what about the attackers, critics, etc! How do we handle them?

  • Mindie Kniss says:


    This is wonderful and oh, so timely! I’m bookmarking it to return to when the volume of my excuses gets a little too loud.
    Thank you.
    Much love to you + Mike,


  • Clare J Fitzgerald says:

    Kate – have you been watching me?

    I’ve been sitting on a creative blog project for soooo long now. I’ve had every reason why it might not be right while in the background my inner voice has been saying – get on with it girl!!

    The idea of exposure – of not getting it exactly right the first time has been holding me back but today I decided to just get the heck on with it and pow – I came across your lovely site and this great article.
    Isn’t the universe grand – sending me your words just to make damn sure I don’t forget.

    Thanks Kate – you’re the bomb


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