After my first book, Money: A Love Story, came out, it became a bestseller so my publisher asked me to write a second one right away. At the time I told them I had nothing further to say on the topic of money and I refused to be one of those authors who just writes a second book that’s essentially the same as their first (or their first ten) with just the slightest repositioning.

My second book, Do Less, finally came to me at the end of 2016 and made it’s way into the hands of the public in 2019, 6 years after my debut book.

Many of my friends who’d debuted as authors around that same time had published third or even fourth books by the time my second came out. I wondered why it had taken me so long, but I also trusted the timing.

Here we are 7 years later. There’s a book that’s been trying to get me to write it since 2022 and let me just tell you, it’s been a thing.

The wrestle with resistance has been so real.

The ping pong between feeling wildly confident and soul-guided about this project one day to questioning if I’ve got what it takes to put the big idea that’s the spine of this book on the map has given me whiplash. (In all seriousness, though, I’ve actually had a lot of neck pain.)

I wrote Money: A Love Story in 6 weeks. I wrote Do Less in 8 weeks. I assumed this next book would be the same: sit down an hour a day and just write the damn thing from start to finish.

Well, I was wrong.

This one has been working me in ways I didn’t know I needed to be worked and in ways I really didn’t want to be worked.

I knew enough to not expect my kids to be the same and to know that parenting each of them would be a different experience. I didn’t know that about my books. But now I do.

I recorded an episode of Plenty about the behind the scenes process of writing this next book and what it’s required me to stop performing. No matter what you’re experiencing resistance around, this episode will help you get unstuck.

I think recording the episode helped to unlock what came next.

After 4 years of:

• thinking about writing the book (which turns out is not the same as actually writing it)
• writing an entire proposal for a version of it that I’ve now evolved beyond
• signing with a fancy pants NYC literary agent
• dissolving the contract with said fancy pants agent because I had a gut feeling it wasn’t the right move
• writing 7 chapters of yet another version of the book that is not quite the right book

The Universe conspired to finally get me off my ass (or actually, in the case of writing the book, get me to sit my ass down and write) the first week of June.

Writing is one of the things that makes me feel most alive and most myself. If I were to do nothing else with my career, I know that I was put here to write.

Dancing is the other thing that makes me feel most alive and most myself. It’s not part of what I get paid for, but it’s another thing I was put on Earth to do. I had a lot of sadness and regret that I stopped dancing in any kind of organized way after I graduated from college, but “try” as I might, within the last two decades, I couldn’t manage to get my ass to class regularly except for a brief dance fitness stint in Miami that scratched the itch but didn’t fully do it for me.

All within a week of each other I:

• joined a local dance collective for women who used to dance and who miss it (it includes an annual showcase. Yep – I’m officially in prep for a dance recital!)
• Had a VIP Book Mapping session with my friend who founded a publishing company and got clear on what this book actually is (and more importantly, what it isn’t) plus the entire structure and timeline

And you know what?

I’m not giving way to my resistance when it comes to dancing or writing my book anymore! Both locked in the same week. (I’m sure it was something astrological.)

I’m showing up at rehearsal every single Sunday (even when I don’t feel like it.)

I’m writing 1,000 words a day on the book (even when I don’t feel like it.)

100% of the time, during and after writing or dancing, I feel more like myself. I feel more powerful. I feel more alive. And I feel grateful that I showed up even when I didn’t want to.

I know I’m not alone here.

What are you having resistance around right now?

Creating a new offer in your business that will allow you to transition from trading hours for dollars?

Sitting down and getting clear on your numbers so you’re not leaking energy with vagueness anymore?

Writing the one-woman or man show that’s been whispering to you for years?

Going for a walk every day instead of scrolling your phone?

Whatever it is, I have to tell you something:

A certain amount of resistance is required in order for there to be usable power. Otherwise the system short circuits.

No pressure, no diamonds.
No agitation, no pearl.
No resistance, no power.

What if our resistance wasn’t a problem? What if it was actually a signpost, guiding us directly towards our highest and best use?

It has been for me, and I’ve lived long enough to know that I’m no different than anyone else.

Xo,
Kate

P.S. Writing this new book about money has revealed something to me about why we can’t have what we want.

In this episode of Plenty, I unpack:

• what’s been happening behind the scenes with my writing resistance
• what I’ve had to stop performing to finally get traction
• how it’s revealed something to me about why we can’t have what we want 

Listen to this week’s episode of Plenty.

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