Six weeks ago I finally did something I’ve been trying to do for the past twenty years:

I got my ass back to dance.

I mentioned a few Notes of Plenty ago that I joined a dance company for women who danced in high school and/or college and miss it. We’re rehearsing for a showcase and everything. (Cue the sequined costumes!)

Well, in the background I’ve been trying to get my girls to go to dance classes for the last few years. My urging was met with everything from indifference to full on meltdowns of refusal.

And I’d be lying if I said it didn’t make me sad that they were missing out on something that I loved so much.

But wouldn’t you know, within a week of me joining my dance company, they both started asking to sign up for dance class in the fall.

Unprompted by me.

Independently of one another.

They could feel that I was no longer trying to live my dreams through them. Now they had the freedom to connect with their own desires, independent of me. Who knows if they’ll love dance like I do, but it doesn’t matter now, because I’m going for me instead of feeling sad that they’re not going (read: feeling sad that I wasn’t going).

I’ve done this a million times — tried to get someone else to do the thing I’m the one who needs to do.

Nagging my husband about working out (not a good look for a wife).

Requesting that my team slow down and be methodical while I’m sprinting by them, unconscious of the wreckage from my own rushing in my wake.

Making Mike’s focus on another project the reason that I can’t get the one I’m resisting over the finish line.

It’s called projection, and it applies to everything, including our money.

I’ve watched this play out in hundreds of people’s money lives. I see it all the time.

The husband who says he’s so ready to upgrade their financial life but they can’t sign up for Relaxed Money because his partner “won’t let them.”

The wife who resents her spouse for not wanting to go gangbusters with their business when really it’s her who has ambition to burn, desperate to be channeled into her own project, not her spouse’s.

The parent who’s constantly on their kid to get the degree and climb the ladder they didn’t get to (or chose not to) climb themselves — even though their kid is an artist who has no business inside a traditional success path.

So, question for you this week:

Where are you projecting what you want, or the reason you can’t have what you want, onto someone else?

Who knows? If you go boldly in the direction of what you want yourself, perhaps it will inspire those around you to go for what they want, too. (But either way, you’ll be going for it and that’s reason enough.)

Listen In

Speaking of getting what you want (or what was meant for you, which is my preferred paradigm), I’ve read and listened to thousands of pages and hundreds of hours of teaching on manifestation since I was 14 years old.

And there’s a single missing piece that even the most famous, most credentialed experts have left out.

This week on Plenty, I’m sharing what the missing piece is and how to get it working for you. (It’s not magic. And it’s not your mindset.)

Press play on The Missing Piece in Every Manifesting Conversation — And Why Your Affirmations Backfire.

For You

None of us can read the label from inside the bottle.

Most of us are completely unaware of the leaks we have in our money life, for example. They’re the water we swim in. We’re just fish who have no idea there’s another way to be.

That’s why I created The Recalibration Field Guide.

It’s a free guide that will show you your money leaks fast. It’s not surface level and I doubt you’ve ever seen your money this way before.

UNCOVER YOUR MONEY LEAKS WITH THE FREE GUIDE

Sending you lots of love from the summer heaven in my hometown in Maine!

Xo,
Kate