Friday morning I walked into the kitchen and Mike announced he was taking the girls to Maine for a spontaneous trip to check on the short-term rental we recently bought and are renovating (next-level passive income project incoming!)

“You’ve got 3 days at home to yourself.”

I realized I haven’t spent a weekend alone at home in a decade. Sure, I travel without the kids for work, girls’ trips, and getaways with Mike.

Me, home alone—with no one to care for and no plans?

It felt like heaven.

It was a gift so big I wouldn’t have ever asked for it.

It’s also evidence of something that clicked for me in Egypt about manifesting abundance that’s so major, I couldn’t keep it to myself.

The full story of what happened in Egypt is something I’m saving for my new book (though folks who come to Relaxed Money Live are gonna get a big early helping of what I received there!)

For the purposes of short and sweet, here’s what I’ll say:

I finally understand why I’ve always struggled with specificity when it comes to what I’m wanting to manifest…and why great stuff shows up anyway.

Are you someone who has trouble when you’re instructed to get hyper-specific with visualizing or describing what it is you want to call in?

When a guided meditation or book asks me to do that, I go all tight and crunchy inside. It’s really the opposite of flow. It’s like my energetic pipe gets immediately clogged.

Suddenly, I’m trying too hard and feeling like I’m not manifesting correctly. It really doesn’t feel good (which is precisely the opposite of how I know manifesting works!)

And yet, beautiful gifts like this weekend at home alone have been showing up at an even more rapid pace than usual lately:

The invitations to Onsite and Egypt—experiences worth tens of thousands I never paid for. An all expenses paid trip to the Four Seasons in Maui. My biggest keynote invitation to date.

Here’s what flies in the face of much of the traditional manifesting advice:

I did not visualize or ask for any of these things specifically. Like I said, when I try to get specific about what I want, I get energetically constipated.

So what’s going on here?

Turns out, magnetism doesn’t require specificity, especially if it stops you up faster than eating an unripe banana.

My experience has been the opposite: the more I live in integrity and the less I focus on manifesting, the less I have to “order from the menu”… and the better things get.

When our inner world (values, desires, boundaries) matches our outer world (choices, behaviors, relationships), our field gets so coherent that life keeps delivering possibilities we never would have had the audacity—or the imagination—to ask for.

Like three unexpected days of solitude that reminded me: abundance often arrives as what we need, not what we planned.

(If specificity opens up your energetic channels, please go with that. I’m not here to turn off a tap that’s already flowing!)

I can’t wait to tell the story and share the science of why this works at our live event and in my book, but for now you can start playing with this question:

Where am I being radically honest with myself—and where am I still splitting my energy?

Where am I saying yes when I mean no? Where am I settling? Where am I talking myself out of my brilliance and “hiding my light under a bushel”, as my mom often says?

The idea here is that in order to live a life of financial, time, and relational abundance beyond our wildest imaginings, we don’t have to police our thoughts to make sure they’re positive all the time. We don’t have to wallpaper our home in vision boards. In my experience, we don’t even need to visualize (though go for it if it works for you because there’s so much great evidence that it works!)

All we need to do is live in alignment with the truth of who we are and have our actions and words be a match for what’s going on inside us.

Authenticity. Alignment. Integrity. That’s the formula for magnetism.

Also: 10/10 recommend putting time alone at home on your holiday wish list! This 3-days alone has been worth millions in terms of the creative regeneration, deep rest, and time to simply be with my truest self. I want you to have that, too.

These 3 days reminded me that the greatest manifestations often arrive as gifts we didn’t even know how to ask for—because they come from the part of us that’s already aligned, not the part still trying to prove, push, or plan it all out.

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