The Ultimate High

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This week’s blog babysitter saved my life. I met her when I was in a total financial fog, charging everything on my credit cards and feeling too petrified to look at the truth. I was in debt. I was living in an apartment my mother owned. I was ashamed.

Reading Barbara Stanny’s books and taking her workshops helped me turn my financial life around. Within months of implementing what I learned from her, I had stopped using my credit cards, I had doubled my income, I had unraveled some unhealthy business patterns, and I had paid off all of my debt. Seriously.

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I absolutely adore Barbara and what she stands for. The way she teaches money is with a big, open heart and a deep connection to spirit. What she has to say about women and power when it comes to money is profound. Read on to learn the surprising benefit of learning how to invest that actually has nothing to do with your money.


It was a conversation I’ll never forget.

Soon after I sold my first book, Prince Charming Isn’t Coming: How Women Get Smart about Money, I flew to New York and had lunch with my editor. As we munched on our salads, I casually asked if she ever invested.

“Oh no,” she said, emphatically.  “I have no money.”

I could see she was embarrassed, so I dropped the subject.

A year after my book hit the stores, she called to confess.

“Remember that lunch when I told you I had no money,” she said. “Well I did, but it was all sitting in cash in my 401 (k). After working on your book, I realized how foolish that was. So I started educating myself, found an advisor, and it’s now fully invested. I even collected my spare change in a jar every night, and I’ve invested that too.”

She paused a moment, then added: “I watch the market go up and down, but I’m in it for the long haul, so I’m not worried at all.”

I practically jumped out of my chair in excitement. But then she said what I hear all the time from women when they finally take financial responsibility.

”I have to tell you, Barbara, I feel so powerful.”

Those four words captured the essence of my life’s work; why I’m so passionate about helping women financially. Sure, I want them to prosper.  But more importantly, I want every woman to realize that by taking charge of her money, she’s taking charge of her life. The incredible sense of power this brings is the ultimate high.

And some of you know exactly what I’m talking about.

But if you’re like most women, the thought of investing feels more like climbing Mt. Everest—totally daunting, if not downright impossible. Actually I suspect some of you would rather take on the mountain than tackle the markets.

I know the feeling. I spent most of my adult life in a financial fog, letting my husband—a stockbroker turned compulsive gambler (really!)—handle our finances. I was too scared, felt too stupid, to take charge. Of course, he lost almost everything. We got a divorce. He left the country. My father wouldn’t lend me money. I got the message. I wasn’t going to raise my 3 young daughters on the street. I had to do something…fast.

I tried to learn. I went to classes, read books, but my eyes would glaze over, my brain would fog up. I figured I was terminally stupid.  

Then I made a very wise decision. I gave myself a year to learn about finances. And I’d do it my own way. I’d not only study the facts, I’d also explore my fears. So while diligently doing the outer work, I dove deep into the inner work, combining the practical with the psychological.

And it worked. I became a savvy investor and successful wealth builder. If I had to sum up what I learned, it would be this:

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  • You build wealth by following the 3 Rules of Money: Spend Less, Save More, Invest Wisely.
  • At least some money must be invested in assets (stocks, bonds, real estate) that grow faster than inflation and taxes can take it away.
  • Investing is a lot simpler than you think (though there’s a whole industry trying to convince us otherwise!).
  • It doesn’t take a lot of money to create wealth or a lot of time to get smart.
  • And though it’s best to start when you’re young, it’s never, ever too late to begin.

I want to show you exactly how, after decades of trying, I finally got smart about money.  On January 6th, I’m offering a free teleclass*: One Year to Wealth…In One Simple Step a Month. You will learn how, in one year or less, you can become a Savvy Investor.
To register Click Here.


You will see how easy, simple…and yes, fun…it can be. But above all, I want you to experience the exhilarating high that happens when you finally say to yourself, “I feel so powerful.”

– Barbara Stanny: experienced mentor, wealth coach, speaker and author of six acclaimed financial books, helping you create the wealth you desire and the life you deserve.

 

Over to You:

What you are you currently doing to build your wealth?  Kate and I would like to hear from you – leave a comment below!

16 comments

  • I watched the webinar interview Psalm Isadora did with Barbara and I just love her! I bought a bunch of her books and have been working my way through. I love that she goes over the psychological aspect of money. I strongly believe that is the biggest and most common block women have. And it’s very hard to diagnose yourself and seeing examples shines the light on the problem. Barbara knows her finance “ish”! :D

    • Kate Northrup

      I also love Barbara’s approach to the emotional side of money too! And I agree that this is a really common block for women. Good for you for going after it in your own life!

  • Kathleen Iselin

    I love these brief, inspiring blog posts!

  • Lisa

    So looking forward to learning more! Barbara’s story resonates with me. After 11 years as a stay at home mom, I’m now divorced with two kids to raise, and an ex that’s unemployed and has left the country. I’m now picking up the pieces and sorting though a mess while I begin making a great life for my kids and I. My relationship with money needs an overhaul and this seems a great place to start.

    Thanks so much!

  • Brandy

    Right now, I am following Dave Ramsey’s plan of saving $1000 emergency fund before agressively paying off consumer debt. Then I plan to snowball into each credit card and collection account smallest to largest to pay them down. Is it wise to invest half of the 1k while paying off the debt or leave it for now?

  • Andrea

    A year ago I read “Money is a Love Story” and then Barbara. It changed my life from one of fear about never having enough money and not being able to save to now– I saved 40,000$ in the past year and I just bought my second house (okay 1/5 is mine and the remainder is a mortgage.) It has two suites and the rental on one pays the mortgage. The first house is almost paid off. So instead of paying approx 2400/month to rent a condo or house, I will have my own place and an investment for 300/month and lots of freedom to travel.
    Next step is to develop a lucrative business as I left the corp a year ago as well:)
    Looking forward to the gteleclasses with Barbara!

  • Signed up for the class. Am hoping to use it for some breakthroughs in personal finances.

  • Oh my, Barbara! My ex-husband was also a stockbroker turned gambling addict! Now I’m married (2nd time around) to a smart, responsible CFO. Funny how even your partners change dramatically when your money mindset changes. ;)

  • I’m just listening to ‘Sacred Success’ on audio book and I love it! Thanks for the recommendation xx

  • I don’t know what a blog is. I’m a baby boomer, 64, and I was widowed 12 years ago, with 4 kids to raise. The youngest was a month shy of ten. The oldest 1 day shy of 19.
    It has been an emotional journey. I have always had a bad relationship with money. I don’t feel worthy and have had a life full of anxiety about it.
    I am telling myself every day that I am worthy, but still charging those credit cards!!
    HELP!
    I love your Mom, suze Orman, Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson and Iyanla Vanzant, Nick Ortner , and even tho I get what they’re saying, I evidentially don’t.
    Thank you for listening. ????

  • Susan

    Kate, Love my emails from you!! Also loved your book! I am debt free, house is paid for and my money is fully invested. In the market now to buy investment properties and have a good teacher. My problems are that my money isn’t making much and I spend more than I take in each month because of my love of travel! My investments are managed by a fund manager and I feel I have no money aptitude. Would your course be helpful to me? I’m 67 and retired.

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