The options are infinite. And people will never stop asking you to do things.
Opportunity will not stop knocking.
There’s not some distant day in the future when your inbox will stop filling up, the Tweets will stop coming in, and the notifications will no longer be glowing red.
Space will not create itself.
You have to create it.
You will be tempted to do more. Because there will always be more to do. And it will never be done. You will never be done.
The minute you check off the last item on the list, you’ll think of another thing you haven’t yet done. And then another. And then another.
I don’t tell you this to make you anxious (though you may be feeling that way as you read this).
I tell you this because I want to remind you of the truth.
The truth that the temptation of information and possibility and options will never end.
The only way to keep it from burying you is to build a little dam. Or a big dam.
You build the dam like this:
First, take a deep breath.
Then, decide what matters to you.
Then, put things in place so that less things come your way (like turning off notifications, putting your phone on Do Not Disturb, closing your door, and unsubscribing).
Lastly, you weigh everything that makes it over the dam it into your awareness against what matters to you.
If it fits with what matters to you and you get a full body yes, then you know what to do. If you get anything less than that, be ruthless.
You will be afraid that you’ll miss something if you don’t see every single opportunity that’s available to you.
And you absolutely will miss things. But you’ll miss out on way more of what matters to you if you’re constantly putting your limited attention on making sure you’re aware of all of the possibilities, whether they’re important to you or not.
I promise, when you heavily filter the offers and possibilities that come your way, you won’t miss what you missed out on. Because, first of all, you won’t ever know about most of it. And second of all, because your life will be so full of things that matter to you that you won’t really care about the things you know that you missed that didn’t really matter in the first place.
Decide what matters.
Build a dam to keep out what doesn’t.
What matters to you? What are you committed to carving out sacred space and attention for? What will you do less of in order to create more space for what matters? What practical things could you do to build your dam? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!
What if you had the wisdom of a group of amazing entrepreneurial and change-making mothers to guide you in how to create space for what matters most this year?
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