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How to prioritize so that what matters to you actually makes it into your day.

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We’ve all been there.

You get to the end of the day and you’ve not done any of the things you wanted to do. Instead, you’ve spent the day distracted, running from appointment to appointment, doing everything for everyone else, attending to the urgent.

You’re spent. You’ve been going all day. Yet you don’t really feel like anything got done.

The only way to make sure that what matters to you actually makes it into your day is to make sure it makes it into your day.

If you wait for the space to open up in your schedule so that suddenly there will be space for what matters most to you, you will be waiting forever.

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Making sure what matters gets on the schedule (and actually happens) requires you to identify what matters to you.

For me it’s my family, my own well-being, writing/creating content, and my friends.

What is it for you? Write it down. I’m serious.

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Be sure this is what’s most important for you, not for your family, for your mother, for society, or for your friends. Just because someone else thinks something should be important to you doesn’t mean it should.

Once you have clarity there, identify the specific tasks and activities that relate to the areas you’ve identified as your priorities.

For me these include writing my blog every week, spending time with Penelope, Mike, and my extended family, moving my body and taking my vitamins, talking to my girlfriends, and reading books that inspire me.

Then, block the time off in your calendar for the things that matter.

Look at your schedule at the beginning of the week and put the time in for the activities that are related to your priorities.

Then schedule everything else around those things.

This seems obvious, I know, but are you really doing it? I found that I often wasn’t. The week would end and I would be like: Wait a second. How has it been 7 days since I moved my body? Why am I trying to squeeze writing a blog into the 20 minutes before our team needs it to get it out to our community?

Left to the default, your time will never be your own. The only way to make your time your own is to own it.

As a recap:

1. Decide what matters.
2. Identify what daily/weekly activities relate to what matters.
3. Block the time out for those things and schedule everything else around them.

Might you get less done from a traditional “productivity” perspective? Maybe. Might you disappoint some people? Almost definitely.

But your life will be filled with what matters. So how much you did or how many people you pleased won’t feel like it matters as much.

A life filled with what matters is a life well lived. And the only way to make sure you have a life like this is to do it on purpose.

 

OVER TO YOU:

What are your top priorities? What are the activities associated with those things? How do you make sure they get on your daily calendar? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!

  • Caroline says:

    YES!! “But your life will be filled with what matters.” Amen! It is so easy to get carried away and lose focus of your priorities when we don’t treat them as.. well, priorities! To keep that focus is one of my biggest life challenges I must say. Not just in January for new year’s resolutions but all along the year, for work, hobbies, family… It used to be like a vicious circle: I would set my priorities, schedule for them an around them. Suddenly weeks of even months had passed, “life happened”, and what were once my priorities were buried under commitments that creeped up on me – I would feel terribly guilty and again assess my priorities, schedule for them etc. I now keep a weekly journal just to make sure that I’m following up and that I make the time for what matters most to me. Building that habit really helped to break the circle!
    Best wishes xx Caroline

  • Lisa Camhi says:

    This is a constant struggle for me and after years of having good intentions (and not nearly the follow through I would like) I have learned that I respond well to a chart I can see daily. Otherwise, odd as it is, I can “forget” to get to yoga or meditate or take supplements or plan something joyful. Life just rolls and the things that are important to me roll away with it. So…. I have an excel spreadsheet that is titled “Radical Self-Care” and it has on it all the things I want to do for my well being during the week. When I look at this chart, I am reminded… I make my checkmarks…. I see them add up and I am inspired…. and (fingers crossed – this is new!) a habit develops. Or rather, a new way of being that incorporates more of how I want to live into how I actually live.

  • Yoga, I need to make more time for yoga and mediation. I am better at everything in my life when I do that. I am more productive. Right now I have it scheduled for the end of the day. I need to put it in a more secure spot that can’t get trampled on so much.

    My family – husband and kids. I am good about getting my time in with them

  • Deborah says:

    With 4 grown children and 8 beautiful grandchildren and an ageing mom with health issues, I could be busy every day!!
    I am tomorrow going to my agenda and listing activities that are important to me and scheduling them in!!
    Thanks for the excellent advice

  • Ingrid Huebner says:

    I’ve always thought that being able to follow your every interest and curiosity defined “freedom”, and in these last two years, I vowed I’d give myself the opportunity to do just that! However, I feel so stressed from all the things I’ve decided to “follow” or take classes on that I find I am drained, and feeling as though I’m letting MYSELF down. I did not factor in the “prioritization” and “time blocking” that actually make that happen for the things I most want! Thank you for this post….extremely helpful to me!

  • Lacie says:

    After being in flight or flight for around 3 years I feel like I purposely don’t do as much as I did before because I don’t want to have those feelings anymore . But I’ve learned tools to release these emotions so for that I’m greatful. I would love to be more consistent about how I start my day off right. Like prayer, spiritual thought , and just a minute to get grounded before I start in on everything else. What matters to me is my sweet family, to creat , to give and receive love. I want to be more productive but I’m use to thinking that’s a lot of busy work. So my challenge to myself is to simply and and really look at what matter like you said and not worry so much about what others think I should be doing. I have a hard time with that. Much love and gratitude to you for helping us all!!! Love your spirt?

  • Emily Wells says:

    This comment is related to Money, A Love Story (even though I am signed up for the Do Less Experiment!- I just couldn’t find where else to leave a comment).

    I bought Money, A Love Story last year. I have NEVER been organized with my money. Ever. It has always made me feel “icky” checking my online banking, and even sending invoices (how weird is that ha!). I hired a bookkeeper last year, and cancelled it half way through the year because it was quite pricey, then got Quickbooks, which I opened TWICE out of six months. This mentality and lack of organization makes tax season fun as a business owner, as you can imagine (sarcasm or course ha).

    This year, I decided it was going to be different. I bought a calendar, notebooks, and all different colored pens, and have a weekly date with myself where I get a coffee, light a candle, and balance my books every Friday. I can’t tell you how expanded I feel. I feel so in control and powerful now. I no longer feel icky opening my accounts, and I am so much better with getting my invoices out on time. It has all CLICKED now. I owe it all to you and your amazing book. Thank you a million times, Kate!

  • I have been using a day planner for 4 years and cannot live well without one. I make sure I have a new refill even in October! I have times and jobs penciled in months in advance so that when a new job comes in I have an immediate answer.
    Good call Kate. ..

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